Unsure if this is true for many out there but there is a real struggle for me to session. I have some local options however haven’t found someone with the right chemistry. If I see the word findom I vomit. When someone does not have any rope experience (finding this true with many new Prodoms) then I will pass on the session.

Back in my teens I would browse various Prodoms websites and would get excited to one day session with them. It would never occur to me that these same people could move to a different city or retire. 15 years later and after having a few sessions it’s challenging to find someone. Makes it impossible when classified sites closed down so experienced Doms who once visited my area no longer do due to uncertainties of income and expenses.

Unfortunately I do not travel a lot.

Curious if anyone else is having a challenging time finding someone to session with. Pretty sure I’m not the only one

Thanks for chiming in

It is not as easy as the old days. I myself have a smoking fetish. 15-20 years ago if I was going to Cleveland, 95% of the Dommes smoked. Now there are 1/3 of the Dommes available and only a few smoke. Smoking is not my only interest but the field has been narrowed greatly.
Funny thing, 20 years ago strapon was an area Dommes didn’t go in most sessions. Now it is hard for them to avoid. Times have changed.

I don’t smoke but I am in the industry so I understand your struggle. Times are definitely evolving. Never expected it in the link world. It honestly feels I had a lot of missed chances in the past.

Rope does seem to be a dying art form in the Pro community. I am among those that don't have the patience for it - preferring leather bondage. I don't know where in NC you are, but Simone Kross visits some NC cities and she is very skilled with rope.



I was just talking with someone the other day about how trends in session requests change over time. There was a time when I could go weeks without a request for strapon. Now it's on almost everyone's list of requests. Since trends appear to be sub driven, I never really thought about what it's like to be on the other end and see one of your interests die because as new Dommes are trained, that is not part of the training. In my conversation we were specifically talking about medical fetish, which to us seems to be in a down trend. If subs quit showing an interest in it, I can imagine that less and less Dommes will take the time to learn how to do it, making it harder for a sub with that fetish to find someone to session with. Interesting topic.

Simone Kross is great. I did see her when she was in Charlotte. Quite difficult to make the drive and go back in a single day. First time I traveled that long for a session. Found the entire experience stressful.

Wouldn’t mind experiencing leather bondage. Requires an investment in gear. Lately I have been buying gear to take to sessions instead of having sessions. At the moment it’s the better investment.

Mistress Ayn you used to visit. Hoping you swing by

I know what you mean. Back in the late 90’s early 2000’s two big times Dommes I used to see tied me up more rather than now most just want use cuff and clip it on to the cross or bench. I get why they do it because it’s quicker than tying up every wrist and ankle when switching position. Also clothes pins hardly anyone used them for CBT nipples most slap or kick my balls. After being away for over 10 years I’m trying to make a comeback but no luck yet.

Yup that as well. Slap some restraints on my wrist and call it bondage

Love the process of being meticulous tied as well. Causes a great panic that my life is in someone’s mercy now

I don't know if you're near Philly, but Mistress Renee does elaborate rope work, among a ton of other specialties. My one session with her was memorable.

I love rope, but to be fair, a lot of clients don't want to take the time, and I respect that. I think most people would be more into rope and enemas if it did not eat such a large chunk of session time. I have some loyalists to those practices and that is good, however I have invested in a lot of rapid bondage devices to get the helplessness set up and on to the other activities. I am not complaining, I still find it all very interesting, but I can understand how a domme would not invest so much time in medical or rope training.

Conversely shibari and kinbaku has enjoyed a huge popularity here in Paris in the past few years--mostly in the lifestyle and male dom community , but it's something. Now that my French is better I am going to sign up for some refresher classes. Who knows. I already have a suspension rig in my dungeon if it comes back in fashion.

I usually do a 2hr session. Yes I do agree it’s time consuming. Even though they aren’t young these Dommes I’m guessing they don’t care for it or aren’t too good at it maybe. Or perhaps it’s not requested much anymore.