I do occasionally see an escort who I did some pro domming in the past and is pretty good with kink. But I’m just curious how you were able to find kinky escorts on Tryst?

Buffalo,

Sometimes it’s just luck. I ask upfront a lot. Most are willing to at least try. I also will use the Tryst search engine, deselect BDSM so no professional Dommes show up in results, then use key words like “kink”, “dom”, “bdsm”. That works best in major cities. But my overall experience has been that most escorts will entertain reasonable requests, as long as you ask up front.

It also helps that my main kinks are ballbusting and tease/denial. Asking an escort to kick you in the nuts and tease/edge you until you’re begging is not a big ask. Many of the ones I’ve met genuinely seem to find it hot. I suspect there are other kink activities that may have a lower rate of acceptance among escorts.

I have similar kinks and Thats been my experience as well. I normally just send a short text that says “id like to combine your companionship services with some kinky femdom activities such as…. “. I include screening info and Ive had a lot of positive responses.

Ive found many open to it even if they don’t list it as in interest.

Even better i think many have downright enjoyed taking their aggression out on me :-)!

That’s great. Pretty simple really. Just ask although I’m never sure when or how to ask.

Thanks for the suggestion to use key words in Tryst search engine. I played around with it and definitely got results. I like the escort I see immensely but unfortunately she’s got limited availability and coupled with ny limited availability it’s hard to match up.

That’s interesting about the ballbusting. The escort I see has told me she refrains from cbt and other pain stuff down there because she thinks it will impact performance in other areas. I don’t think it would because it’s a turn on to me. Maybe I will bring it up again next time I see her.

That’s a good way to word it.

Maybe this comment should be a separate thread. You tell me.
Over the past decade or so there has been a transition in BDSM. Some Mistresses have become female bodybuilders and, these massive female athletes becoming Mistresses. For more than a few years starting in the early 2000s until the mid-2010s I sessioned with such ladies. (I used to say to many of them, "You don't need equipment. YOU are the equipment.)

Podcasts are just on-demand audio, delivered in the form of a file that can be downloaded, yes, or streamed. It may be a leftover term, but it's still very much a thing -- big business, actually. Podcasts can be internet radio shows, slickly told crime stories, New York Times productions like The Daily, or just a two people bantering. There are podcasts that costs hundreds of thousands to produce, or I could create one right now on my phone and upload it and it'd be on Apple's podcast directory shortly and people all over the world can download it.

There are a number of kinky podcasts, several hosted by dommes (including one by Eva Oh), and some of the kind of revelations about DS that I'd use to have after reading MF I more often have listening to an interview or conversation on one of these podcasts. I recommend you check one or two of them out. If you want to listen to just one episode, try Yin Q's from the Masocast, a podcast hosted by a submissive guy married to a well known former pro domme. It's from over a decade ago, but I remember it being a really good one. And if you like that conversation, the host, Axe, is looking for people to interview for his next round of episodes.

I don't find many platforms anymore where we can engage and actually write back and forth in a group discussion, which is why I like this board. Its really such a shame that most open to the public platforms are just bombarded with trolls. I love to hear other points of view and have open discussions, but algorithms now on social media are set up so we only see opinions and people similar to our own, which has created this hatred and division between opposing views that is hostile.
Max Fisch is horrible. Its lack of moderation has let trolls go wild and I've even seen some thinly veiled threats towards Dommes. If I weren't a seasoned Domme reading that board I would be too paranoid to even be in the Dungeon. I want to believe My submissives are actually that and don't have these nasty opinions about their Domme like these exploitative misogynists that post on Max.

Twitter only allows a certain number of letters in a response its very difficult to get a point across, and it stops Me from engaging half the time, but I do use Twitter very regularly because of how easy it is to use and navigate and push information quickly. If only I wasn't shadowbanned!

I also use SextPanther alllll day, its a really great way to communicate with My subs individually, monitor chastity, and get to know new subs. I constantly have to tell subs not to break TOS on there but I agree that it seems like its not being monitored.

I have LoyalFans and OnlyFans. I really like LoyalFans as a clipstore, for posting photos, and I've started to write a bit on there like a blog. I'm really unclear about all the TOS of these sites so I'm really cautious about posting, esp on OF, I mainly just use that for photos. I have little to no engagement on those two fan sites, I get messages every once in a while but its rare.

I became a Domme to do in person sessions, not to be on the internet all day... and now look what I've had to do just to keep up!

Mistress UV, it is always a pleasure to read your posts.

What I like about this site is that it is rather civilized and the give and take here is actually healthy. It has become rather unique. Since you do live sessions I don’t know how you can keep up with all the online sites, but in any business during the past decade or so, it is a necessity.

MF has become rather civilized if, you being an experienced Mistress and guys like me, being the same on the sub side, you avoid any toxicity there. I’m no longer on Twitter but have checked it out as a non member for a variety of topics in the past couple of months. I haven’t been on the other sites you mention, but I might check it out based on your post. Thanks again.