I see the reason to keep that entirely separate on a professional level. It is interesting that most of your clients felt the same. As far as the two merging into one at home, yeah, same with me.

Anal on the male or female? Just kidding.

Kudos. I'm choosy about who I play with too. It isn't just for the sake an the act. It is about who I'm with.

I'm asking about lifestyle because it is a safe assumption that most professionals do not cross certain lines. This is a hypothetical question. If you had to choose between two erotic lives, one being 100% FemDom with 0% sex and the other was the opposite of that, which would win out?

Me too, with right person.

This is a very complicated subject for me. I’ve never really had a desire for just normal vanilla sex although luckily I can do it. I’m hardwired for submission and am definitely a masochist. I read your post below and I see what you are asking here so if I had to choose one or the other it would be vanilla. I’ve got a great family wife and kids etc and life has been good and so as much as I crave kink in the end it’s just a small part of life and I’d do without it.

I REALLY disagree with this assessment but we are already insanely off topic of this thread so I will leave it at that. I will definitely engage if anyone wants to start a thread about findom vs sugaring in the Off-Topic section of the board though.

Like I said I have no experience with either but this is my impression of it. I’m sure there are Pro Dommes who incorporate findom into existing relationships with regular clients but when I think of findom it’s the online Dommes which is a niche in itself. But maybe there are online findom types who meet with their subs so I don’t know.

I'm with buffalo. I would strongly prefer both but if I had to choose it would be vanilla.

Although, from the Pro Domme sode of things it is really only North America where sex isn't at least somewhat easily available in a BDSM context....or at least that used to be the case in much of Europe.

In a way I think of findom (a bdsm activity that involves control of finances) and Findom (a (toxic) bdsm segment that practices findom in a particular way) to be different things. Capital F Findom vs lower case findom. I do think most "dedicated" Findoms are online, but I'm sure not all. There are certainly findom-ish activities that pro dommes do, but even though the general description might be the same -- control of finances in some aspect or other -- there's a huge difference in the way it's done and the overall context.

All of that aside, I am in very strong agreement that sugar relationships aka arrangements are live and in person relationships. There are people who call their online interactions sugar, but for the general sugar community, we consider it more a form of online content selling just under a different name. We dress up the terms, but the "sugar" refers to intimacy (sex) and financial support (money). Not phone calls and pictures. But that's a whole side argument