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#14023 - 04/05/21 03:34 AM Re: Submission without humiliation [Re: Spark]
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Registered: 07/12/19
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This was a problem for me a long time ago when I did not know that you can express yourself and negotiate. Right now no humiliation is something I write in my first email to a new mistress. Frankly I never had a problem with it since.

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#14067 - 04/06/21 04:40 PM Re: Submission without humiliation [Re: Spark]
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Registered: 03/31/21
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> You dont have to be weak to be a sub in a relationship

Actually, I find that its the opposite. Subs are strong, they just give that strength, that power, to the Domme. Its refreshing. Its different. Its exciting.

> when i engage in chastity play its because i love the feeling of giving up control.

Exactly. Its about control. Its the ultimate in tease and denial.

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#14107 - 04/08/21 10:49 AM Re: Submission without humiliation [Re: Tristan]
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Originally Posted By Tristan
> You dont have to be weak to be a sub in a relationship

Actually, I find that its the opposite. Subs are strong, they just give that strength, that power, to the Domme. Its refreshing. Its different. Its exciting.



I completely agree. As I have posted before I started as a college kid, got in and out of the scene over the years, and realize now as a very mature male who continues to do a few sessions that you must be strong - physically and emotionally - to be a sub. I feel I've gotten stronger, open to more experiences and activities and being more comfortable in my own skin.

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#14134 - 04/10/21 02:17 AM Re: Submission without humiliation [Re: Tristan]
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Let me stir the pot a little.

Do you mean in a relationship or in a session? You have more of a point for a session, not so much for a relationship.

I think that you should bring all you can in a relationship you care about and doing less than that is an abdication of responsibility.

To tell you the truth this is one of my main objections to slavery and submission.

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#16403 - 01/03/22 06:48 PM Re: Submission without humiliation [Re: furfan]
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Hi, I enjoy a similar kink. I enjoy physical humiliation but not verbal humiliation. How can I express this clearly to a Domme without eliminating interesting activities?

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#16413 - 01/06/22 12:05 PM Re: Submission without humiliation [Re: Spark]
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Registered: 10/31/15
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I enjoy humiliation but only a certain type -- if she presses the wrong buttons, it snaps me right out of subspace. I communicate all this by giving her context and examples. Context example: "our dynamic should be fun, sensual, flirty, we should laugh a lot. It should not be strict, mean, yelly/screamy, etc. Bratty or entitled princess countenance encouraged."

Then I give examples of what kind of humiliation I like or don't like.

Don't like: Don't speak in absolutes about me, I'll snap right out of subspace. Don't say things like -- You're a bitch. You're not a real man. You're a piece of shit.

Do highlight how I'm submissive or inferior TO YOU: You're my bitch. I own you. How does it feel knowing you get your ass fucked, and you can only worship mine?

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